The Sex Talk

A high number of teenagers are becoming teen parents. How our, our kids finding out about sex? Sadly lots of kids are finding it not from their parents, but from the people and things they interact with. I will put it into two list ways to help your children and ways that hurt your children.

                Ways that hurt are when we just don’t talk about it. If we never say anything they will find out about it from the kid on the school bus, there cousins, or maybe even the television. These resources all make it sound a lot more graphic and horrifying then it really is. Another problem is when someone gets raped. Some children are told since they were young that if you have sex before marriage then you are dirty. Parents or other adults put an emphasize on the sin of what was done to you. You have been “used”, no one will want you. When someone has been abused this way it was not there fault and they are not used, they need to understand that it’s not ok before you are married, but if you are forced then it is not your fault.

                What can we do to help them not do it before they are married, and so that they can understand what it is. Start when they are young. They need to know what their body is and how it is different. Set boundaries with them, talk with them. Have them help in setting the boundaries. Understand that they need to love their bodies; they don’t need to be ashamed about how they are different. Sex is a sacred physical activity that should be saved for marriage. The most important thing you can do as a parent is to teach them in live, and to give them correct information.

                There is never a case where a child should never know what they are going through and what to expect. They should always find out about it from their parents, it will hurt them more if they learn about it from someone else. A good resource for parents who are concerned about talk to their children a good resource to go to is A Parents Guild.