It’s
not just one thing it is a combination of several different things. 75% of
people who report to be gay were admitted to being sexually abused at one
point. The father figure in the family is often distance and doesn’t interact positively
with the young child. An example would be if the child showed an interest in Barbie’s.
Don’t take them away, break, or destroy them in front of him. Instead play with
him, by Barbie so that he can be Ken. An over involved mother can also cause
problems. If all she ever does is down play the father it will only hurt the
child. Bullying also can affect the child. If he is told that he is bad at a
sport he will be much less likely to even try it next time, making him with
draw more form the other boys.
What really
happens is they just want to have a relationship with other men, not necessarily
in a sexual way, but in an I want to be friend’s way. They have never had a
healthy relationship with other men before so they may think that what is
happening is normal and healthy. Another problem is people of today. If a girl
acts like a boy she is a tomboy, but if a boy acts like a girl he is gay. We automatically
made it that they have to have a sexual relationship with other men. How is
that right? If you call someone gay long enough they will just think that, that
is what they are. When in reality they just want to have a family one day with
children. Funny fact in our class most all of the girls would like the traits
of; sensitivity, caring, and creativity in their husbands. Wait isn’t that what
people call gay? See we are labeling people without even giving thought to how
they really are or feel.
Dose
being gay happen at birth? The evidence says no. I would have to say that it is
many the environments that we grow up in. Please don’t just label people gay. It’s
not always true and can have disastrous conscious on that person’s life latter
on in life.
Hey its Emily your TA again! You mentioned some thoughts that fit under the 'self fulfilling prophecy' notion. How often do you feel that we incorporate a 'self fulfilling prophecy' mentality in day to day situations? Do you feel that certain individuals have certain predispositions which give them a higher likelihood of same sex attraction? Thank you for mentioning labeling! Labeling, especially children, can lead to so much sadness.
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