How important is communication?

                Is communication in a relationship important? Yes it is we are constantly communications. It’s impossible for us not to communicate. Some people might have just said that not true when I give the silent treatment I’m not communicating. Well actually you are. You are communicated that you are angry with another and do not wish to speak to them. It was found that when communicating that on 14% in how people interpret what you are saying is from the words themselves. 35% is the tone, and 51% in the body language or the non-verbal.

                For example there are tons of ways to say I love you.  It can be said after a pause or with love because you truly love the person before you, or it can be said threatening. How we say it means a lot to different people. If we are rolling our eyes when we say something it says that we really don’t care, or we think it is silly.

                Sometimes couples complain that they are not communicating. It’s not that they can’t communicate it’s that they are miscommunication. Miscommunication is a dangerous and a harmful thing that can happen to a relationship. An example is a couple arguing in the car. She is complaining about the how she has to pick up after the dog and wants him to do it. He says he will but she has to take one of his jobs. She gets extremely angry with him. Some may think that what they are arguing about it is the dog, when in reality she thinks that the jobs around the house are distributed fairly. Sometimes the root of the problem is hidden and the other partner doesn’t see it. If they communicated better he would be able to see what they are really arguing over and they can come to a conclusion faster than if she never told him why she was mad.

                People can get divorces over miscommunication. An example is a couple where she travels a lot but gets tired easily, she hates it when her husband changes her flights when she is tiring to get home so that she stays an extra night in the city she is in. He finds it hard for her to be in the pain after a long day. He just wants her to feel better before heading home. They get into arguments all the time about him trying to control her life. In reality he is just showing his love for her in his own ways. Once they understand this there marriage was doing great again, but before that it was heading in the direction of divorce.

                So not only is it important to communicate, but also to make sure that there is no miscommunication. We need to be nice when we correct miscommunications because if they are handled wrong it can cause more problems then it would have fixed. So is communication important in a relationship? Yes. We are always communicating, and when we miscommunicate it hurts us more than if we never had.