Crisis in the Family

            Can crises in the family ever end happily? This is a question that surrounds families of today. The divorce rate is on the rise and even when little things happen sometimes it ends in divorce, so how can a family crisis end happily. It may come as a surprise to many but most marriages stay together after a crises.

An example of a crisis could be that it is found out that your spouse is having an affair. Most people when asked what they would do if they found out there spouse had an affair said that they would get a divorce right away and would never forgive the other party. Surprising though the statistics say that actual most couples stay together, it takes time to get over the betrayal and they may never get over it. Trust has been broken and it takes a long time and lots of hard work to patch up the betrayal.

Reuben Hill study the stress that a family goes through and he made the ABCX family crisis model.

A – Actual Event

B – Both resources, and how you apply them

C – Cognitions (Thought Process)

X – total eXperience

An example of this in the process of happening could be a death in the family. Karen’s Great Grandfather who she was very close to died recently (A). Karen leans on her family and friends for support (B). She goes to church every Sunday and it takes time but she gains a comfort that all is not lost (C). Several months later she is able to look back on the happy times she had with her Great Grandfather and tells stories of him to her friends.

Even though she has gone through the death of a loved one she is still able to move forward. It’s important to know that when you go into a crises that it will not be easy. The most important thing at least in my point of view is to go into it with faith that you will come out of it the same or maybe even better then when you went into it. So can crises end happily? They can but it takes a lot of work.