The
reason can change depending on the parent. Mothers usually move because they
remarry, there new spouse has a job that requires them to move, or they
themselves get a job, and sometimes they move to be closer to family for
support. Meanwhile a father is more likely to move because of a job. He now has
to pay for two families and it cost a lot of money. He can also remarry witch
will at the expenses of his family. Another reason that father moves is because
he feels like his kids don’t need him anymore.
When a
divorced person remarries its important tot relies that there are now two separate
families. Sometime people still see it as one family. This can be harmful to
the newly formed family. It has been said that it takes at a minimum of two
years for a stepfamily to receive a sense of normality. It must be understood
that when a new family is starting out that it is going to be hard. You are in
the process of trying to blend two completely different families into one.
Traditions are different, habits are in the process of changing, and what are
we to do!!!!!! Remember it takes two years, two cycles of going through all the
holidays together.
Three
ways to help make the two year transition easier are first; let the birth
parent do all the heavy discipline. This will help prevent the stepchildren
from hating you, and causing more problems. Second, the stepparent should be
like a favorite uncle or aunt. Children tend to talk to their aunt and uncle
about certain things more then they tell the parents about it. As sad as it is
as a step parent you will never be able to take the place of your step child’s
birth mother or father. Third, counsel with your spouse regularly. This allows
both of you to know what is going on in the family. It also allows you to make
plans of action when something isn’t working what do we need to change to make
it better.
Great insights, when we have difficulties in marriage how can we encourage the best coping skills in our own families. What are some of key principles from the course you want to keep with you? Elder M. Russell Ballard has said, "Indeed, nothing is more critically connected to happiness—both our own and that of our children—than how well we love and support one another within the family." How can you encourage happiness in your current and future family? Have a Merry Christmas and I hope you reflect on the importance of family this holiday season!
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